Sunday, September 01, 2013

Homeless but not Hopeless

Our guest blogger this week is Sue Badeau. She and her husband, Hector are passionate about their kids. Their book, Are We There Yet?: The Ultimate Road Trip Adopting and Raising 22 Kids, releases this week. I know you will be blessed by her story. For a chance to win a copy of her book, be sure to leave a comment for Sue.

Homeless but not Hopeless
Sue Badeau

“Do not let your hearts by troubled . . . *“ 

Emerging into adulthood presents extra hurdles for youth who grew up in foster care.  While many amaze us with their resilience in the face of incomprehensible odds, far too many fall dramatically behind their peers.  Research provides staggering numbers to confirm the bleak facts but the statistics belie the real story – behind each number is a real person with a beating heart, thirsty soul and deep scars from multiple early life traumas. 

I speak often about these sobering facts, but it is hard to reveal that one these “statistics” is my son.  After starting life in foster care, he joined our family through adoption, bringing heavy baggage and countless scars.  Our love, commitment, nurturing and relentless prayers weren’t enough.  As a result of risky decisions and poor choices, he can’t safely live in our home, nor successfully support himself  - so he lives on the streets. 

This breaks my heart.  I cry out to God in anguished prayers on his behalf alternating between grief and anger – anger at those who hurt him when he was small and helpless, anger at him, now, as a young adult, for continuing to make poor choices, anger at myself, anger at God  . . . 

While lost in these thoughts, I notice a recent photo, when my son was here, at home.  We’re hugging. He’s smiling.  He’s not “homeless,” I realize.  He’s “houseless.”  He cannot live in this house, but he still knows it is home.  It – and we - are always here for him.  He can come by for a hug, a smile, a cold drink of water, a word of comfort at times, or admonishment at others.  He has the hope of home . . . . as he wrestles his demons, he has the hope of a home that will always be available and this provides an anchor for him in life’s storms. 

And I’m reminded that his situation is not much different than mine.  I have a home, a heavenly home, where I cannot live at this time.  I can hope for it, long for it, catch glimpses of it from time to time, but as a result of sin – I cannot live there . . . yet.   I can “drop by” for a hug, or drink of cool water from my Father, but for now, I must remain on the streets of this earthly realm.  I know it breaks His heart when I turn away from Him, returning to the streets, just as it breaks my heart when my son returns to the mean streets of Philadelphia. 

And yet, I know I am not homeless.  My home is promised, prepared for me and my room is paid for! My Father is waiting with love and longing to welcome me home.   What a magnificent hope!  I pray that this hope – of an eternal home, where noone is turned away – will truly penetrate my heart, my son’s, and each person in a condition of “houselessness” here on earth.

“In My Father’s house are many dwelling places . . . . I go and prepare a place for you . . . I will come again and receive you that where I am there you may be also.” (*excerpts from John 14:1-4, NASB)

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  1. Thank you Sue for sharing this sweet revelation from God. I love how faithful he is to answer our cries and give us eternal perspective beyond our own vision. I was blessed by your story, and I will pray for your son.

    andy lee

  2. Dear Andy - thanks for stopping by - appreciate your reflections and prayers! I learn so many eternal truths from my experiences - "for better and for worse" with my amazing family. More of them are shared in our book so I am excited that your name is now in the drawing for a free one! Sue B

  3. What a beautiful story! We have a friend here who has provided a home for foster children for years, many with birth defects. I think it takes a special person to do this--and I know God is blessing you for it!

  4. So powerful, Jeanne. Thank you for sharing her with us. Sue has such a glorious ministry and a glorious Home waiting in heaven that it gives get joy to hear about her.

    I tried to get this comment to your web site and couldn't. So you don't have to enter my name,,, except to let her know she is a blessing and excellent writer.

    Love in our Lord,

    Lucy Adams

  5. Donna Goodrich - thanks for stopping by and I'm glad you thought about your friend. Foster and adoptive parents need good friends in the community - its so important!

    Lucy - thank you for your sweet note and I do see it here! You are in the drawing! Sue B

  6. Being a foster parent myself...I know the heartache. Some make good choices and carry on...
    others so wounded flounder and have a difficult time in their adult life...but I guess we care for

    them, because we are all in need of parenting and a safe home...thanks for sharing your world

    and even the hard things...God is always in the mix.


  7. Edna - thank you for your comments and for sharing your experience as a foster parent. It is amazing how often we can gain spiritual truths from our parenting experiences, isn't it? You are right, God is ALWAYS in the mix! - Sue B

  8. Drumroll please!!!!! And the winner is . . . . . . . .

    Donna Goodrich! Donna your name was pulled out of the hat in the drawing and you are the winner of a free, autographed copy of our book, "Are We There Yet? The Ultimate Road Trip Adopting and Raising 22 Kids"

    I need your mailing address so I can send you your book. Please email me at - thanks! And thanks to ALL who stopped by here!


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