Tuesday, September 07, 2010

The Three R's - Part Two - "Are We Okay?"

As I mentioned, I have been anxious for three couples in marital difficulties. Upon hearing the news of marriage #3 being in danger I looked at my husband and asked, “Are we okay?”
Everything that felt sure and safe suddenly felt wobbly and weak. I needed his assurance that our relationship was strong because of the shocking news. After all if it could happen to other Christian couples maybe it could sneak up on us as well.

In the past several weeks I find myself appreciating my husband more than ever. I think he must be thinking similar things because he has been even more attentive and showing his love in lots of little ways. One thing I have learned in watching these other relationships is that I should take nothing for granted. Marriage is hard work—it is something we have to strive to keep healthy by communicating with one another and putting one another first.

I wonder how I can put into practice the messages in the letter to Philemon as I watch these marriage relationships disintegrate. One's divorce is already final—I don't believe God is done there—but I know it can seem like hope has died. The other two are spiraling fast. Can God restore them? Absolutely! But, the people involved need to be willing. Paul shows this in verses eight and nine when he writes to Philemon about doing the right thing in regard to Onesimus.

I don't know if I can be like Paul and somehow share just the right words to cause a change of heart in another person. But, if given the chance I will try. Paul's message of redemption, restoration and reconciliation is really the message of the Gospel. It isn't new, but it is fresh for every situation. And, I believe with my whole heart that His Word holds fresh truth for today's messes. That's why it is called daily bread. Fresh bread to meet the needs of hungry hearts.

I would love to hear your stories of hope. Have the Three R's made a difference in your life and heart?

Till next time,



  1. Was just thinking about how I take my husband for granted. I'm adding another R-- refresh. Thanks for the reminder. PS I know that Ticonderoga spot!

  2. This has to have been a hard subject for you to write about, Jeanne. What stands out for me is the "hard work" marriage takes to make it lasting. I sit here looking back on five decades of marriage and think, yes, it's extremely hard work, sometimes for both husband and wife, and sometimes for just one of them. I also know from Scripture that nothing--no thing--is impossible with God. Hearing of the increased tenderness between you and your husband is heart warming.
    Blessings, Sally

  3. Marcia,
    It is one of the most beautiful views I have ever seen! And this is only a small portion of the scope of it. It is truly panoramic.

    Thanks for taking the time to read and post.

    And, Sally--thanks for the wisdom of someone who has been married many years and knows the worthwhile work it takes to keep a relationship vibrant. We have been married 30 years (can't quite fathom that) and it gets better and better!

    Blessings to you,


  4. Nice blog, Jeanne. Good thoughts, also.

    I would like to know how you applied the copyright symbol and your name below the photo.

    Jean Ann

  5. Thank you, Jean. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

    Did you figure out how to add the copyright symbol? I added the label on the photo right on the blog template. I hope that helps


  6. Friends of ours who have now been married for many wonderful years nearly lost their marriage soon after they exchanged their vows. Whenever I hear of yet another couple in crisis, I remember this couple in whom the Lord miraculously worked to salvage their fledgling marriage. It encourages me that hope is never completely gone and that God is mightier than sinful, selfish man. I also greatly appreciated the reminder to continuously work hard at marriage, even if everything appears to be going well.


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